How To Stop Your Man Having An Affair

Really whet his appetite ... Emiliana suggests cooking dinner in lingerie

EMILIANA SILVESTRI used to rumble love rats for a living – and reckons women nearly always DRIVE blokes to cheat. She has now written a controversial book with rules on how to keep men faithful, advocating no nagging, good home cooking and great sex.

IT is a simple mantra: "Men don't cheat because they can — they cheat because they are not fulfilled at home."That it comes from a woman, Emiliana Silvestri, is more shocking.

The 32-year-old has caused a storm with her straight-talking book 101 Ways To Keep A Man. But she insists: "I am simply being honest. Men have three basic instincts — food, shelter and sex. If you nail that as a woman, there's no need for him to look elsewhere."

Emiliana used to work as a "honey trap", an attractive woman hired by wives to see if their hubbies would be tempted to cheat. Now she is a relationship counsellor.

Critics have slammed Emiliana's tips, saying she wants to turn women into submissive Stepford wives.

But she says: "I just want to stop women from going through the torment of suspicion — and betrayal."

Here Emiliana, who lives in London with boyfriend James, 34, explains her top tips for women to keep men faithful:

DO NOT BITCH OR BE UNKIND IN FRONT OF HIM

Emiliana states: "Men simply aren't interested in gossip and tittle-tattle. They want a girl who they think is kind — not someone who slags off other women or criticises him at every opportunity.

"Men in relationships with bitter and unhappy women simply go quieter and quieter — until they finally meet another woman who genuinely is kind, and they leave."

DON'T NAG HIM WITH TEXTS
"Don't chase him up with dozens of texts or quiz him jealously if he's been out with colleagues.

"It is an insult if he isn't trusted, and men don't like their partners being jealous."

LEARN TO COOK – AND BE A NEARLY NAKED CHEF
She says: "It sounds old fashioned, but it is genuinely giving your man one of his needs.

"Even better, I cook in my underwear every Wednesday. It's a sexy treat for my boyfriend James and gives us something to look forward to every week.

MAKE YOURSELF MORE INTERESTING
"Find a hobby other than shopping and TV shows. Men love women who have plenty to talk about.

"To research my book, I showed 100 men a photograph of a girl reading a magazine at a Tube station.

"I then showed the men a picture of the same girl reading a book and asked which girl they preferred. Without fail they chose the girl with the book."

SPICE THINGS UP IN THE BEDROOM
Says Emiliana: "Keep yourself fit and active. If you drink plenty of water and keep your levels of vitamin B up, your sex life will be far more healthy and active.
"I believe that vitamin B — found in turkey, tuna, potatoes, bananas and lentils — actually helps couples to enjoy sex for longer and enjoy better orgasms."

She continues: "Weight and food have become a taboo subject, but in truth you need to feel healthy to enjoy sex.

"No woman feels in the mood after she's just eaten a curry or a takeaway with greasy chips.

"So keep yourself fit enough to enjoy the physical side of your relationship more."

Emiliana says the insights she had as a private investigator have helped save hundreds of marriages — which leads to her last vital rule:

BEWARE OF CHRISTMAS

Emilia warns: "Most men cheat at Christmas or in January.
In December they are out at office parties, they drink and because they are out late or staying in town, there's far more opportunity to cheat.

"In January, they may be dissatisfied with their lives and are simply after a change."

It was a Christmas encounter with one "target" as a honey trap that made Emiliana see how vulnerable husbands can be. She recalls:

"I had been on my own at the wine bar for about 40 minutes when John came over and asked if I fancied a drink.

"I said yes, and we swiftly starting talking about life and relationships. John told me he was married, but said he wasn't happy.

"He told me that he and his wife hadn't had sex for six months. I knew he was telling me the truth, because his wife Lydia, who had hired me, had admitted that.

"But while she suspected he was growing distant because he was having an affair, John told me he wanted things to work out.

"It was clear to me he was no natural womaniser.

"John asked if I wanted to go back to his hotel for drinks but I declined and he didn't try to persuade me. When we said goodnight, I left with the strong impression that he was just lonely.

"Later, when I reported back to Lydia what had happened, I found myself giving her advice."It was clear this was a husband always pushed away by his wife, and felt rejected and unloved.

"That honey trap night turned out to be the saving of their relationship. Lydia signed up for couples therapy and, six months later, she sent me a text to say they were getting on far better."

Emiliana is convinced that most men are just like John and can be prevented from straying.

She says: "It is so easy to make small changes and to keep a man enthralled. Men love family and security and a happy home.


Source: thesun.co.uk